Archives For January 2012


With divorce rates on the rise, there is an added focus these days on the health of marriages. Therapy, or marriage counseling, is proven to improve relationships – but what really happens behind those closed doors? Continue Reading…

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Have you ever wondered if or how you could be happier?

One rainy afternoon, while riding a city bus, Gretchen Rubin asked herself, “What do I want from life, anyway?” Her answer? “I want to be happy” ~yet she realized she spent no time thinking about happiness. In that moment she grasped two truths about herself: she wasn’t as happy as she could be, and her life wasn’t going to change unless she herself made a change. Her epiphany of, “the days are long but the years are short” made her realize that time is passing quickly and she wanted to focus more on things that really mattered. Thus, she dedicated an entire year to the study of happiness. Her book, The Happiness Project, merges the wisdom of the ages with current scientific research. Gretchen Rubin’s idea for a happiness project is no longer just a book or a blog; it’s a movement. Continue Reading…

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Wabi Sabi Love

January 17, 2012 — Leave a comment


It’s common to fantasize about living in a perfect world with perfect people and perfect relationships. The hard truth is – we’re not perfect. And neither are our partners.

The term Wabi Sabi is a concept derived from Zen Buddhist teachings that means finding beauty and perfection in the imperfections. For instance, if you had a large vase with a long crooked crack down the middle of it, a Japanese art museum would put the vase on a pedestal and shine a light in the crack OR they might fill the crack with 24-karat gold! Sadly, our culture has conditioned us to expect perfection from our treasures, ourselves and others, leading us into a perpetual state of frustration and dissatisfaction. The human mind tends to be a fault-finding machine, focusing with laser- like precision on what’s wrong versus what’s right. Continue Reading…

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We all remember going through school and hearing how main subject categories were noted as “the 3 R’s:” Reading, Writing and Arithmetic. And a common learning tool for these subjects in school was use of the good ole’ flash-card to increase memorization. There is a 4th “R” you may want to consider adding to the list of Reading, Writing and Arithmeticââ?¬Â¦that can also be improved through the use of flash-cards: “Relationships.” In the book, “Talk to Me Like I’m Someone You Love: Relationship Repair in a Flash”, Dr. Nancy Dreyfus, Psy.D., explains how Relationship Flash-Card Repair can help solve squabbles between couples. Continue Reading…

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