Archives For Dr. Liz Hale



One of the biggest issues in a marriage is money. While you might think the root of the problem is the dollar signs, it goes deeper than that.
Take the money personality quiz at www.themoneycouple.com.

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Teenagers can sometimes be hard to understand, but there are some things that teens wish they could ask their parents.

Do You Like Me?
In the independent film, “Lady Bird,” mom and daughter are out shopping for a prom dress. My favorite scene is when the daughter emerges from the dressing room in a beautiful pink prom dress, admires herself in the mirror and says, “I love it!”
If I were to watch this scene play- out between clients of mine, if I were on this shopping trip as the family director, I would yell, “that’s a wrap!” After the daughter says “I love it”….good enough! Don’t fight about fabrics! If it covers enough, that’s enough!
If daughter loves it, mom, then it’s YES TO THE DRESS!
Teens are SO sharp and sensitive to your approval or lack thereof. Watch your nonverbal communication. Often what happens is a child picks out an outfit and a parent has some nonverbal communication: Head tilt, lip pucker….teens get it! You don’t approve of their outfit…but more painfully they read it as you don’t approve of them.
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This isn’t advice you hear everyday: strengthen your marriage by picking up your smartphone.

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Feeling left out, or even being ignored, isn’t a fun experience. It feels childish, and can be hurtful.

Ostracism or exclusion have been studied for decades. While the silent treatment may not leave physical scars it can cause pain that is deeper and lasts longer than physical injury.

Being ostracized is an invisible form of bullying but because it doesn’t leave bruises we often underestimate its impact. Being excluded by a social group, office colleagues, extended family and especially by a spouse can be excruciating!
Why is ostracism so painful?
Because it threatens our fundamental needs as human beings of belonging and esteem.

And even being ignored or ostracized by a stranger has damaging effects?
Research has found again and again that strong, harmful reactions to ostracism are possible even by a stranger.
Purdue studied 5,000 people via a computer game to show how just 2 or 3 minutes of ostracism by strangers can produce lingering negative feelings. Continue Reading…

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We put out a poll on Facebook asking viewers if they sleep in a separate bedroom from their spouse. Most don’t, but some couples do sleep in different beds.

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