You are a perfect candidate for Discernment Counseling.
If you are not ready yet, maybe you feel you want to sort through thoughts and feelings before sharing with your spouse. I can be a gentle yet challenging guide to help you see things more clearly.
Our belief is there is always more that we are doing individually to impact our spouse than we realize. Discernment Counseling is designed to offer clarity and confidence around your role in what got you to this point in your marriage and a direction you'd like to take it. There are three paths as the outcome of this 1-5 session work. Path 1, do not pursue divorce nor couples therapy. Path 2: pursue separation or divorce. Path 3 is a full out, six-month effort at couples therapy with divorce off the table.