The whole family is together on Thanksgiving, so creating deeper connections is an important part of the day.
Thanksgiving dinner constitutes a lot of different scenarios: small groups, large group, in-home, at a restaurant, in-laws, out-laws, no laws. The questions posed to each other can change according to the dynamics of the people around the table.
What do we hope to gain from asking and answering certain questions of each other? Closeness.
We often say there’s strength in numbers; I believe there’s strength in knowledge. Around the table this Thanksgiving decide ahead of time what outcome you’d like to achieve as you pass questions randomly around to your guests or even write one unique question for each guest’s individual name card.
How Well Do Others See Me? (especially my child)
Let’s start with our children. Earlier this year there was a popular post on Facebook encouraging a parent to sit down with their child and ask them 14 specific questions, and then repost the answers along with the child’s name and age.
So instead of the parent asking questions to the child about that child, the parent asks questions to the child about that parent.
The answers were tender and endearing. Here are some of the questions
- What is something I always say to you?
- What makes me happy?
- What makes me sad?
- How do I make you laugh?
- What is your favorite thing about our relationship?
- What am I really good at?
- What is something I’m NOT good at?
- What do you enjoy doing with me?