Teenagers can sometimes be hard to understand, but there are some things that teens wish they could ask their parents.
Do You Like Me?
In the independent film, “Lady Bird,” mom and daughter are out shopping for a prom dress. My favorite scene is when the daughter emerges from the dressing room in a beautiful pink prom dress, admires herself in the mirror and says, “I love it!”
If I were to watch this scene play- out between clients of mine, if I were on this shopping trip as the family director, I would yell, “that’s a wrap!” After the daughter says “I love it”….good enough! Don’t fight about fabrics! If it covers enough, that’s enough!
If daughter loves it, mom, then it’s YES TO THE DRESS!
Teens are SO sharp and sensitive to your approval or lack thereof. Watch your nonverbal communication. Often what happens is a child picks out an outfit and a parent has some nonverbal communication: Head tilt, lip pucker….teens get it! You don’t approve of their outfit…but more painfully they read it as you don’t approve of them.
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